Home is a Roof over a Pig: An American Family’s Journey in China
Aminta Arrington
Category: Nonfiction: Memoir: Asia; China; Traveling/Living Abroad
Synopsis: Arrington and her husband take their three young children, one of whom was adopted from China, to live in China.
Date finished: 4
July 2013
Rating: ****½
Comments:
This has most everything I love in a book: family, parenting,
travel, exploration of other cultures, word/language exploration, and pages of delicious
facts. This is a book I found during pre-sale, and I stalked it and bought it as
soon as it came out. And then I let it sit on the shelf for a few months. I
wasn’t sure if I’d like a book about a family that goes to China to show one of
their three children her roots. Would it be too liberal, too sappy, too
indulgent? Well, it wasn’t what I expected; instead, it surpassed all my
expectations.
This was a thoughtful book. The tone and writing was very
similar to the tone in Gretchen Rubin’s happiness books.
It was informative and friendly, yet somewhat formal. She tried very hard to be
objective. Arrington gave us an in-depth study of the language and culture of
China. You could tell she was passionate about learning about China—and about
sharing what she’d learned. It was part academic (but approachably academic) and
part memoir, but the balance was always perfect.
My favorite parts of the book were when she explained
certain pictographs for Chinese words. I was fascinated, sitting there with a
big geeky word-drunk smile on my face. (This is where the title comes from; the
pictograph for “home” is a roof over a pig.) I love this stuff. I literally saw
language come to life.
I also thoroughly enjoyed her discussion of daily life in
China and the cultural aspects of living abroad as a family. The family didn’t
live in a modernized (Westernized) city, but they weren’t in the countryside,
either, so it was the perfect setting for describing an average Chinese
experience.
The fact that Arrington and her husband were teaching
English to Chinese college students was an ideal backdrop for discussing some
more controversial topics such as communism, Marxism, Taiwan, the one-child
policy, Westernization, the 2008 Olympics, and Tibet. She also spent time
explaining the educational system and how everything was taught to “The Exam,”
the test taken after high school that determines where—or if—a student will be
able to attend further study, and thereby determining the fate of the rest of
their lives.
My only quibble with the book is Arrington sometimes seems
to apologize for United States foreign policy. She explains (repeatedly) that
America was “afraid of communism.” That doesn’t seem historically accurate to
me. We were afraid of what far-reaching communism would do to the world’s
economy, yes. We were afraid of it infiltrating and dismantling our democratic
system, yes. But more than that, I think we had (and still have) altruistic
motives for the elimination of communism and socialism. As the only country in
the world founded on the principle of liberty, it is our very nature to recoil
at a whole people that is denied liberty. I realize she was walking a fine line
discussing such controversial topics with her students at all, but I was
uncomfortable with her wishy-washy explanations of our motives.
I took copious notes throughout my reading, and I wish I
could supply them all, but I’ll try to keep my excerpts short and just
recommend you read this book.
[Words in brackets are mine, added for ease of
understanding. First two citations are not direct quotes from the book.]
All students memorize the same textbook for college entrance
exams. (page 37)
The Chinese college students she taught didn’t know about
China’s “lost girls.” (page 45-46)
Unlike out capricious English words, which can be
conjugated, suffixed, prefixed, made plural, or otherwise adapted, a Chinese
character remains an encapsulated singular morpheme, not allowing such
impulsive mutilization. Each character, a complete work of art—mounted, framed,
and hung on the wall—cannot be then modified. (page 58)
The objective in a child’s education is singular: pass The
Exam. This requires memorizing The Facts. There is no room for questions, no
time for deliberation, no space for debate—and no tolerance for asking why. Memorization
has taken the place of thinking. (page 71)
[of her children]
But sometimes I feared that the absence of cultural rules
that are applied across the board would completely confuse them. (page 73)
China has 56 ethnic groups, but the Han comprised 92% of the
population. (page 91)
The Chinese government seems to have a pact with the
minorities: don’t seek power, and we’ll give you autonomy and allowance to lie
traditional lives….There are exceptions, of course, such as the Tibetans and
the Uighurs who are unwilling to consent to such a pact…(page 92)
Sixty percent of Chinese live in the countryside. (page 140)
And isn’t that the greater part of what gives us our
culture: our mother’s voices, ringing in our heads? (page 154)
The one area [math] that I thought called for rote learning,
the Chinese thought the opposite. The paradox was that I had finally found
creativity in China, in a place my closed American mind told me had no
potential for it. (page 179)
They [Chinese students] knew their parents loved them, but
they knew from their actions, not because they had ever been told. (page 203)
And like the other countries I had lived in, China’s
automobile preference reflected its personality. No bright colors, no rear
spoilers, no shiny hubcaps, China’s choice as a black four-door sedan,
impeccably cared for, blending in with all the other black four-door sedans
already on the roads. (page 206)
Eric [their tour guide] told us that Shanghai was so modern
and Westernized, it needed its own Chinatown. (page 222)
The average lifespan for a building in Hong Kong is 30
years. (page 239)
Mao…was the anti-Confucius, giving women the right to
divorce and own property; setting quotas for women in civil-service positions,
and putting as much money into women’s sports as men’s. But what he could not
change, was millennia of thinking. (page 273)
Would you recommend
this to a friend?
Absolutely!
You might also enjoy:
The Foremost Good Fortune by Susan Conley – not the comprehensive and engaging look that Home is a Roof gave, this is another memoir of an American family
living in China.
Paris in Love: A Memoir by
Eloisa James – far inferior, in my opinion, this is a memoir of a family
transplanted in France.
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