Homeschooling with a Meek and Quiet Spirit
Teri Maxwell
Category: Nonfiction:
Parenting & Families; Faith; Homeschooling
Synopsis: Homeschooling
mother of eight, Teri Maxwell, shares how to homeschool children with a meek
and quiet spirit.
Date finished: 5
July 2013
Rating: ****
Comments:
I’ve been following the Maxwell family for years now. Theirs
was one of the first blogs I discovered, and
I’ve enjoyed seeing their family grow. I love their intense faith, and their
witness has been instrumental in the deepening of my own faith.
Now, what you must know about the Maxwells is that they are a
very conservative evangelical Christian family. They are literal-Bible, “the
earth was created in six days 6,000 years ago,” Christians. They are “children
are a gift from God” and we’ll take all the blessings he’ll give us Christians.
They are “Jesus is God” and “memorize the Bible” Christians. They are fire and
brimstone, “nonbelievers go to hell,” Christians. They are “the husband is the
ruler of the family” and the wife is his help meet (the husband is not hers!) Christians.
They can make you very uncomfortable or encourage your spirituality, depending
on the state of your heart. I don’t agree with many of their doctrinal arguments.
I believe in a loving God, not a punishing one. I believe in the equality of
the genders because I know God as Father/Mother. I don’t have a dog in the race
when it comes to the questions of the age of the earth or life after death. And
yet, I’m drawn to their strong faith.
All that by way of saying, when you pick up their books, know
what you’re getting into and take what you read with a grain of salt.
I picked this book up because I’d always been intrigued by
Teri’s insights into mothering and homeschooling, even though I don’t have
school-age children or homeschool. Also, I’ve begun teaching a Sunday School
class consisting of one willful high-energy student who’s new to church and
faith. And he happens to by my grandson. Teaching children in your family is
always harder than teaching stranger’s children. I began to see behavioral
issues pop up in Sunday School that weren’t present in the time we spent
together before and after class. And I knew disappointment and strong
admonishment on my part weren’t going to foster the best environment for
sharing his heart and opening his life to faith. In short, I began to think I
needed a meek and quiet spirit.
A meek and quiet spirit, however, does not mean that the
children rule the mother/teacher. Mom is still in charge, she still disciplines
when it’s needed, she just rules with kindness rather than desperation,
frustration, and anger. Teri shares practical advice such as the use of
schedules and if/then infraction and discipline guides as well as Bible verses
that helped her regain her meek and quiet spirit while dealing with difficult
situations. She also emphasizes the need for quiet Bible study and prayer time.
This is not a book about homeschooling. There’s no talk of
curriculum or state testing or homeschooling being better than public
schooling. This is not a book about admonishing moms. At the same time, it
doesn’t coddle moms. (She’s of the “your free time begins when your kids are
grown” camp.) It does offer encouragement and the promise that through prayer,
a mom can change her heart, soften her spirit, and bless her family.
She also addresses depression as a mother who spent 15 years
in its grip. This was helpful to me. She writes, “The more my thoughts are on
the Lord, the more I am able to love my family with a meek and quiet spirit.
When negative emotions come over me, it is usually because I am thinking about
myself.” (page 108) While this can be read as one of those “look happy, be
happy, don’t think about it” statements, I think if you put the emphasis on the
first sentence, rather than the second, you’ll get to the heart of healing.
All in all, this slim book was a refreshing encourager to “run
the race without weariness,” whether in Sunday School or homeschool.
Would you recommend
this to a friend?
This book would appeal to a very narrow audience, but could
be adapted by most Christian mothers.
You might also enjoy:
The Duggars: 20 and Counting!: Raising One of America’sLargest Families—How They Do It and A Love That Multiplies: An Up-Close View of How They Make it Work by Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar Check out their web store for other titles for the Christian family.
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